Johnny Carson’s gift to guests on The Tonight Show was his ability to be generous with his questions.  He rarely told a cheap joke at the guest’s expense or attempted to tell a better story.  His questions were strategically curious, drawing out the best from the person sitting in the chair next to him.  Jonny was willing to ask for more.  He calculated that his guest’s success would benefit the show for the years to follow.

How can we emulate Johnny and be less insistent about inserting our stories into a conversation?   Ever stand next to a stranger at a party and have a remarkable interaction, later to realize that they asked insightful questions such that you spent the majority of the time talking about what makes you unique.  Set people up for success and both of you will be rewarded.